It’s a new year lovelies! There’s something about the new year that gives everyone an energy and excitement to change. That is why you’d see a lot of Twitter and WhatsApp bants like ‘I’m cutting this person off’, ‘I’m focusing on myself’ and a lot of okoto meow meow skrrrr as the year runs along.
The beginning of this new year presents an opportunity to give your relationship a fresh start.
To begin afresh, think back about all the things you love about your partner. If you don’t have a relationship yet, focus on being a good partner to your unmet significant other.
For Those Not in A Relationship Yet; Take This
1. Let Go of the Past
It is time to let go of the negativity and toxicity you experienced in your past relationship. If you do not let go, it may hold you back from having a relationship you so desire. You can equally make a list of the things you want to let go of in a paper. Until you’re happy with the person that you are, you may not be in a position to be the kind of sweet partner you want to be for your partner.
2. Fall in Love
Don’t hold back. Express your feelings and love towards a significant other. The first step to take here is figuring out where you are mentally and emotionally so that you can eventually get to where you want to be in the process. Also, try out new methods of attracting a partner. Most importantly, fall for the right reasons. One of my friends used to tell me that if you’re falling, make sure the person you’re falling for is ready to catch you so that it won’t end in tears.
3. Stay in Love
Falling in love is probably pretty simple. But staying in love is the most intricate part of being in a relationship. At the point of staying in love is when we have short-term and long-term relationships. To have a successful relationship, you must be determined to maje it work, hold on to the bitter end and hope that your continurd effort will eventually succeed.
For Those in A Relationship;
When you’re in a relationship, your goals should be mutually agreed upon with your partner.
1. Communicate Better
Let your partner feel closer to you by being interested in who they are, what they do and how they are fairing. Helping your partner feel heard is one of the best ways of developing a trusting relationship and connection.
2. Don’t Hold Grudges! Commit to Solving Issues as They Come
Live in the awareness that everything you are and everything you do directly or indirectly affects your partner. As you realize this, you’ll take more responsibility for your actions and influence.
3. Do Fun Stuff Together
Doing something positive and fun that would set a good tone for the year ahead. Hang out often, take a lot of pictures, flirt with each other, travel together, read together etc. You can always create lot of fun moment for the two of you.
4. Learn Your Partner’s Love Language
Let me start by recommending ‘The Five Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman. The five love languages are basically words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, act of service and quality time. Yes though, these things can be considered minor but they sure would help you develop a strong bond.
5. Talk About Your Future
The more you keep discussing your future with your partner, the more you’d make your partner feel serious about the relationship and this will also build trust and security in your relationship.
6. Be Supportive
If you want a last-longing relationship, you have to support your partner’s feelings, thoughts and ideas.
Have an amazing year and an amazing relationship.
Please be aware of ‘Journey to Tango’ in February 2020. Tickets will be available.
Waooooo! U r doing a great job. I've actually read the love languages by Gary Chapman and I wud love to recommend a book by shonda white brown: Don't be a wife to a boyfriend. For those still sleeping in their past.
Ticket to tango please!
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