Most people want to have great relationships but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there and this is why I have decided to talk about the kind of person you should date.
The key is date someone who is interested in you. I don’t mean someone who thinks you’re cute or funny. I mean someone who wants to know every insignificant thing about you. Someone who is passionate about the little things you do. Someone who wants to read every word you write. Someone who wants to know the pitch of your voice. Someone who wants to hear every note of your favourite song and watch every scene of your favourite movie with you. Someone who wants to find every scar on your body and learn where each come from. Someone who wants to know your favourite brand of toothpaste. Yes, it’s that deep!
Find someone who wants to learn every aspect of who you are and hold on to them.
There’s a huge difference between attraction and interest.
Anyone can catch someone’s attention and be attracted to them naturally but interest will always go a long way deeper than attraction.
Lemme give an example, there’s a guy who’s a street neighbour you meet at a party and he comes to you telling you he’s always wanted to ask you out but you’re the indoor kind of girl. And God bless you, you also been noticing the guy too. And fast forward, you exchanged numbers and kissed that night. Then he calls you after three weeks telling you how much he’s missed you and ask you to come over to his place. The next decision is yours tho. But if you’re in this situation right now and you’re reading this, you’re lucky.
This is very typical of most guys. They don’t want a committed relationship or even casual dating. They only want someone who can satisfy their needs.
The truth is if you go over to his place and you guys end up making out and you have hope of him asking you out, you won’t get anywhere with him. You’ll only get more confused and angry.
There are usually two ways to it. It’s either he’s in another relationship and doesn’t want to get involved or he’s afraid to get involved. Read more on http://www.tokesuave.com/2017/11/the-fear-of-falling-in-love-philophobia.html?m=1
If a guy cannot spend time with you to get to know you more but calls you when he’s needy, he’s merely attracted and not interested.
I’ll advice that you should fall for genuine interest rather than attraction.
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You absolutely Toke, what a nice write-up. There's a big difference between interest and attention, when you are attracted to someone deep within you. You know deep within you, there's something this guy/girl posseses that attracted you to her/him. But when you interested in someone, it's unconditional…
Toke Suave says
You're on track.
Thanks for the feedback.
Yusuf shittuh says
Toke you are right even me as a guy I use to have such attraction towards girls but I can never do it cus I always think if someone do same thing 2 my gf…is not every guy that can think…but toke thumbs up i love this it help me a lot
Toke Suave says
Thank you Yusuf for the feedback.
Be a happy man.
Seriously, but it's not all guys. Attraction turns into interest
Toke Suave says
Thanks for commenting.
congrats dear, IT IS such a WondErfuLL post dear. keep the good work