I think the concept of virginity was created by men who thought their penises were so important, it changes who a woman is.
About a year ago, I took a decision on allowing a guy ,who I thought we were in love, explore my genitals. Subsequent to that very day, I had always imagined as a teenager what it felt like to be penetrated, the mood, the action and everything I had read in Cara McKenna’s book ‘ Willing Victim’.
My aunt who is a sex therapist had told me not to reveal my virginity status to anyone. These were her words ‘If it feels passionately right for you to have sex and you’re with the right person, just do it. But do not let him know because he’d feel he has the power to control you. And if at a point, you feel the relationship ain’t working, you can always leave without feeling entitled or him feeling like he owns your vagina. The truth is you own your sexuality, let no one take control over it’
Fast forward, we’ve been friends for a few months then one night he asked me to be his girl, I told him yes that night, we kissed and I had my first sex that night. When we we’re done, he asked if I was a virgin, I told him a no. Then something popped into my head, why does he care anyway if I am one or not?
This is really enlightening. Like it was written for me. I've recently started thinking about this. Thanks
This is what every girl should know and this is what every parents must let their daughter know thanks toke
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This is a wonderful piece. Keep up the good work ma. At least this is an eye-opener for all the ladies out there.
Wow! This is a masterpiece. I love it. More like my real self all written in the article. Thank you dear. God bless you
I'm glad I checked this blog out, I wouldn't have known what I missed out on if I didn't. But this, this is beautiful ��. Your message was passed across rather wonderfully and I can't thank you enough for sharing.
Thank you
Thank you. I followed back.already
Thank you very much.
Thanks a lot. God bless you too.
Thank you.
Thank you. Parents should read this too.
All virgins are not scared of dick.They are scared of what will happen after they give it out to a guy. That he will go about telling shit to his friends and they'd thubk she's easy to get and a how. Then the rumours starts to fly around and now everyone will have to stare at her for one thing. Some of you guys talk like hoes. You'd fuck and tell or hit and run. Guys, she trusted you enough to let you get through her whether as a virgin or not. Learn to keep your business private. Learn to keep your sex life private. Don't demoralise a girl because you slept with her. They are too precious.
Awwwn, thank you
Wow this is so enlighten..we love this!and we want more
I think we should invest much of our time in teaching our younger ones more about sex education and harm the with the best of knowledge of how to date and enjoy relationships not given them an excuse to have sex. My opinion though .
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This is a wonderful piece, craftfully written to enlighten not just the girl child but the parents; our mothers in particular.
Thank you.
Thank you.
We gather dey till he comes.
Really? Do you think this article is based on an excuse to have sex?
This is very inspiring. If I had known this, I won't be a single mom today… But all the same, I have changed my mindset about me. Thank you for the reminder. God bless you.
Wow, thank you very much ma.
This is not our everyday gospel. This is the truth we don't hear, the truth we don't tell our daughters, sisters and friends. Thank you for this enlightenment
Thank you.
God bless you more darling…. This write up is for every lady to read n let go of the depression,and pains….Keep up the good work
Hmm… Nice piece well put together. I'm sure you know that already. Anyways I've followed you on twitter and Instagram @iamemmy01 and I'll be reposting on my status. Kudos��
I must Confess, i find this pretty educative and thrilling as well. Especially that funny Yoruba punch line "Argg moti soriburuku aye mi tibaje"… 'wonder-struck' is the word to qualify this Post.. Bigs Up Suave.
This is really enlightening
I am glad I checked this blog out.. This is so beautiful😍.. Exactly for me
This is coming from a different perspective.
Interesting read.
This article wasn't written to encourage sex. It's more of you embracing your new damaged self without shame and with the consciousness that your true dignity doesn't lie in your virginity.
It's not an antireligious post.
Yours Truly
Thanks a lot. Glad you enjoyed
Thank you. I'll follow back
People that *truly* keep themselves are usually respected because in this 21st century it is one of the thing that is very hard to achieve. Have you wondered why unserious guys are so freak about it because they can actually have something to tell and be proud of. I had sex with a *Virgin*
I tell you keeping your virginity is not worthless ma, enduring all this sweet tongue, sexual hormones shows that a Lady knows what she is standing for. It shows she has respect for herself, it shows that she knows where she is standing for, she is confident and lots more. So when I saw the first line I was interested that why is virginity not dignity.
The truth there are other things to build on as a Lady and not hold virginity like it is gate pass to heaven. Being a virgin does not even guarantee a successful marriage, there are a whole lot more. But it tells a lot about your struggle as a Lady. Trust me it is not a decision to me though. Because decision cannot help anybody to keep chaste, there has to be sth deeper than that. Like a goal or something you are looking at.
Imagine keeping yourself to be a trophy. Some ppl still don’t get it. If a girl want to keep it, it should be because she wants to. Not because she wants her pussy to a trophy
You've said it all
Interesting read…
I however have my reservations which I can't type now. Brb
OK, we will be waiting for your reservations
It's a good read. I think you fell for one of the "badboys". I advise teenagers mostly to read this, they fall easily for the "bad boys"_dunno why.
I'm speechless, not because I don't know the difference between virginity and dignity. Rather, but because a lady would go as much as starting the obvious….. Kudos ma'am
I've always decided on my sexuality and differentiated having sense from having sex.
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I'm always on aww of your constructions. Thanks for sharing this.
Dignity has nothing to do with sexual status, we shouldn't be deceived. Then it means everyone who has had sex have lost their dignity.
Also, virgivity isn't some gift we give out, how's it packages then? Lol.
Thanks again Toke. Ama keep reading your masterpieces.
Thank you.
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A motivating discussion is definitely worth comment. Theres no doubt that that you need to write more on this subject matter, it may not be a taboo matter but generally folks dont discuss such subjects. To the next! Kind regards!!